The Power of Sexuality Part 1 Own your Sexuality Lest it Will Own You


“A violinist had a violin, a painter his palette. All I had was myself. I was the instrument that I must care for.”

Josephine Baker

The walk of a woman has always been a road paved with hurdles and obstacles, yet somehow we are able to bob, jump, and weave with the strength of an athlete and the grace of a dancer. The most famous prostitute of all time Mary Magdalene, historically may not have been that at all. Eve and Lilith were the cause of the fall of man, and Mother Earth always seems to wreck havoc, because becoming upset from time to time is in her nature. A woman’s smile, her walk, her voice can ooze sensuality she is oftentimes unaware is exuding. Awkwardly, not completely aware of the abilities of her gift (and her curse) it may take years to fully hone the craft of your female sexuality and put it to good use for yourself.

In 2008, a young woman named Ashley Dupre had a few friends and I seriously considering a career change. Ms. Dupre is infamously known as the $4,000 an hour call girl to New York’s elite and a current Playboy cover model. It’s very interesting to have a free and open conversation with fellow beautiful sexually active ladies that have had free sex (sex for free), or sex with people they had no attraction to whatsoever for nothing and not feel a bit starstruck by Ashley Dupre. Really, has she done anything more worse than screwing that guy because you wanted some Applebee’s or because you needed a bill paid? A woman like socialite Lisa Raye actually married her husband as a “business deal” with the possibility of “falling in love”. And yeah, her husband was the Prime Minister of Turks and Caicos. If Kitty Kats had a market value, would your choice of investors cause your stock to plummet  or would you cash out like the Oil industry? Should it even matter?

You could be a librarian with coke bottle glasses and your hair pulled back in a messy bun and undoubtedly there is a male suitor, seemingly nose deep in Dean Koontz book with one eye open still clockin your every move. Even ugly Celie and precious Ms. Sophia had to fight their brothers and uncles off the juice box. If the average woman responded to ten percent of the sexual attention she received on a regular basis she’d have a different d for every day of the week. Now imagine if you were one of these above average women, like stunningly gorgeous, piercing eyes, a smile to die for, or a bodacious outrageous derriere.  Imagine if every time you seemed to receive any friendly attention it was because of the big fat rump stuck on your back. Every booty shake song that came on in the club all eyes move to you. Imagine if that was ALL anyone saw whenever they saw you.

Every woman intrigued by the myth of Marilyn Monroe,  in admiration of Lil Kim’s brazen sexuality or the perpetual headlock J-Lo’s ass had on the previous decade should all know the story of Sarah Baartman. In essence she was one of the first traveling Luke Peep Show stars. Sarah a.k.a The Hottentot Venus was a South African slave girl plucked from obscurity to travel the world showing off the biggest asset Europe had ever seen. Her handlers became rich exhibiting her ginormous behind as gawkers oogled and aagled her. Since Sarah was completely uneducated about the economic windfall her body created, she never got to enjoy the fruits of her fruits. She died a drunk prostitute at the age of 25, lost and turned out from living a life based upon her body and her beauty. Her story is like so many Creole girls with grandiose dreams of boudoirs and bordellos that turned into real life nightmares.

Sick of being nickled, dimed, and degraded an American transplant in Paris was creating a stir with her caramel beauty and knockout figure. She danced in banana skirts, sang in giant bird cages, and hypnotized men and women all over Europe alike. No one gave the energy and erotic passion Josephine Baker gave to the stage. She was a muse for artists like Hemingway, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Pablo Picasso and Christion Dior. Ms. Baker’s ass shaking made her famous, but her insight and courage prompted France to employ her as sort of a spy against the Germans, because even the racist ass Nazis couldn’t resist the allure of Ms. Josephine Baker. She was able to segue her power and influence even in the American Civil Rights Movement years after her home country turned their backs on her. Princess Grace Kelly a great and beautiful friend of Ms. Baker walked out of restaurants with Josephine when owners and waiters disrespected Josephine because of her color. Even Mrs. Coretta Scott King persuaded Ms. Baker to take on the titanic fight for equality in America after the assassination of Dr. Martin Luther King. Josephine Baker is the woman the “All This and Brains Too” t-shirts were made for. She was keenly aware of her sexuality, its moxie- yet used it for the advantage of herself to help others. Could you ever imagine Melyssa Ford in serious talks for leading a cultural and social movement?

Lynn Collins a famous soul singer never said anything more powerful than “we’ve got to use what we’ve got to get what we want”. We could use it to make the cover of Playboy, be poked and prodded all over the world, or use our gift of beauty and sexuality as a gateway for change in our worlds. There should be nothing lewd or lascivious about the naked female body, it should be revered as its influence in arts, cultural, and society is indescribable. However sex is a weapon, and after seeing so many cases of accidental suicide, we must learn the history and force of our arsenals. Be proud of who you are, and always take CARE of yourself girl.


About queen4today

This is the story and observations of many Queens through the eyes of One. This isn't about overindulgence, it's about a desire for excellence. The best in life, and harmony in her home. Any woman that realizes her worth, potential, and promise at one time or another is a Queen. Life however, can be her beast, and although she may not always make the right choice, she survives, living it up every chance she gets.. :)

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