In the Company of Misery…


Some people choose not to be happy. They walk around thinking everyone owes them something instead of them making their own way for themselves. They whine at everything like a spoiled only child as if grown people don’t have their own priorities. Whether they are old friends, family or coworkers these people make dealing with them as pleasant as a pap smear as we feel obligated to cater to their swinging moods because of our seemingly unbreakable bonds. But when bonds become bondage we must learn to let go of people who no matter what are never happy in their own lives.

There is never a time where everybody gets along all the time. However, when people choose to blatantly use the victim card in every situation that doesn’t pan out to their liking we must invoke our right to walk away from the situation for our own personal sanity. Miserable people think positive self-confidence and awareness is a threat to their comfortable misery. They can’t understand how people can be carefree and happy while being single, or unrich. These people think that money will solve all their problems but refuse to look at their half empty philosophy as the culprit of their discontent. If you aren’t at this person’s beck and call you have abandoned them. They have found stability in the unstable and love to have drama in their lives to explain to other miserables why their lives are so unfair. Often these people knowingly place themselves in hazardous situations only to act oblivious when the shit hits the fan. They hate to accept blame for the misery they cause themselves because to change their disposition would be an order to tall for les miserables to complete. The victim mentality doesn’t stop there as they get offended by text messages instead of phone calls, get pissed if you don’t respond to their incessant bitching, or feel slighted if you won’t wave the victim flag alongside them. In long-term relationships, this person is not only frightened of your perceived evolution, but angry at you for even expressing and pursuing your desires for happiness. They don’t get why you don’t want to lay around just as miserable as they are. Confused by their own insecurities they love to tell you you think you’re too good because they have grown to look at themselves in such dim lighting. Paying this person a compliment is a waste of air as they are so jaded they don’t even know how to accept positivity. Day in and out interactions with this person can become as tricky and deadly as walking thru a minefield.

Life does not have to be a battlefield. When your allies begin to behave like enemies you don’t have to choose to fight. It isn’t your job to uplift people that love living low. Although it may hurt to leave behind a relationship, there is never anything profitable gained from dimming your shine just to appease others. These people won’t ever be happy because finding faults in everything and being hypersensitive is their happiness, whether they know it  or not. Peace of mind and clarity outweigh any bondage to a relationship because at the very end of the day, we are only responsible for ourselves. If you are always finding yourselves on pins and needles with your friends it’s time to get new friends. If your family is obsessively miserable, phase out your time and especially your expectations for them to change. Stop trying to figure out how to make this person happy.  You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink. Love them from a distance and keep your peace and serenity.

I bid you adieu,


About queen4today

This is the story and observations of many Queens through the eyes of One. This isn't about overindulgence, it's about a desire for excellence. The best in life, and harmony in her home. Any woman that realizes her worth, potential, and promise at one time or another is a Queen. Life however, can be her beast, and although she may not always make the right choice, she survives, living it up every chance she gets.. :)

One response »

  1. In the big scheme of things life is what you make it. If people are not adding to your life they must be taking away from your life. Life is a gift lets live to enjoy the presents.


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