So Fantasia, a rags to riches pop star, has decided to come clean about some pretty “dirty” things. After a summer of cringe worthy admissions to a dalliance with a married NFL player, (whose wife decided to sue her for adultery) and a hospitalization for a suicide attempt, Fantasia comes back for more disclosing her rewards card at Planned Parenthood also got punched during her time of Kurt Cobainity. Already a serial talk show couch sitter, and reality tv star who in her short career has acted in her own biographical Lifetime movie, Fantasia is the anti Beyonce who can’t seem to tell us enough about her private life. We know Fantasia was an illiterate drop out, a rape victim, and lived in poverty until she struck it rich and moved on up Beverly Hillbilly style with her country klan. But do we know too much about Fantasia? And are her bombshell confessions just a ploy to push her super stardom even further into the stratosphere? Or maybe this is ‘Tasia Mae’s way of saying she is just like us….??
Twitter and Facebook, even the monolithic Myspace and Blackplanet got our culture reallly comfortable shooting off our most random thoughts and even secrets. In our strive to stand out, a greater need to relate and be of the people has been fostered. Most of us feel bonded to others by our experiences and we look for insight and comfort in the arms of the ones who’ve been through similar ordeals as us. There is something cathartic about a good ol’ fashioned public confession. Is it the way we cleanse and punish ourselves simultaneously? Perhaps we are publicly shaming ourselves not to necessarily share our experiences but to embarrass ourselves before other people can do it. Fantasia’s concessions of spending most her live living in a Precious Paradise, as well as taking the notoriously head hung low role of Ciely in The Color Purple, can’t help but propel the shame spiral Fantasia seems to be obsessed with. We’ve seen our culture switch quickly from being hush hush about molestation to thousands of men admitting their childhood rapings because of Tyler Perry’s trip to the Oprah Show. In the midst of saving lives and raising awareness, the innocent are revictimized again reliving horrific incidents they’ve blocked out- comforted in the fact they are not alone.
So what’s Fantasia’s motivation? Only she knows, but her story isn’t too unfamiliar as detractors shake their head in disbelief and her fans push her to remember that they love to talk about her voice too. Reality isn’t reality when we chose to focus on the worst of our lives, it becomes a drawn out Tyler Perry movie. Finding someone close to you that you genuinely relate to is a daunting task, so its understandable why we cast our nets out in cyberspace hoping to hook a friend. Maybe Fantasia wants more fan mail, maybe she wants to be a champion of adversity, maybe she wants to sell records. I’m sure she will sit down with someone and let us know where she’s at.