Monthly Archives: October 2011

Every Woman That I Know….


Wants someone who is a great leader. A leader knows their role lies in the responsibility that their power allows them to have. A leader is a giver and is strong enough and kindhearted to walk anywhere without fear or shame. A leader is a listener, and when a leader speaks it is with knowledge and foresight.

Hip Hop’s Heart Throb @Nas and “Nasty”







Kim Kardashian: The Role Model, Reloaded


No one is saying go make a sex tape with your friends horny little brother and become a fame whore. But you can bounce back from any embarrassment from your past and become the person you want to be. 

Everyone knows the formula by now. Make a sex tape, get a reality show, and become gossip blog fodder while brushing off the haters via Twitter rants. The 21st century celebutante archetype is less based on talent and more on media savvy. The Drayas’ of the world are this generation’s Carrie Bradshaw as legions of women propel ratings of shows like Basketball Wives, Bad Girls Club, The Real Housewives, and of course the many Kardashian Klan spinoffs on the E! Network. The malice, slander, and girlfights are as addictive as the sex, five star restaurants, and fashions portrayed on these shows are all things that appeal to the female ego. Heavy on materialism and sexualization, reality TV can either make you think the apocalypse is upon us, or all the images of young women on reality television display loose moraled, foul mouthed, cringe worthy assualt and rattery behavior. This isn’t always the case with all of these shows, all the time.

Kim Kardashian is rocking the crowned jeweled tiara as Queen of the Reality empire. Unassing her sextape predecessor Paris Hilton, no one has turned busted nuts into a money tree quite like Kimmy. Instead of playing to the image her actions (or lack of action) with loverman Ray J, Kimberly Noel capitalized on it. Kim Kardashian, the empire is worth  $35 million, and counting. Not only lending her image for product endorsement, Kim executes her ideas into tangible businesses like workout DVDs and clothing lines.  Kim Kardashian’s face is more synonymous with glamor than smut nowadays, even upgrading JC Penny’s to fly girl status. Her exploits may have made Kim the butt of many jokes. Kim has been called a talentless J-Lo, a slut, a gold digger and an athlete chaser. But, the bigger but is that judgment, cynicism, and suspicion are hurdles any woman that has ever done anything dubious in her life must face and vault over to ever gain a true sense of who she is. Kim Kardashian can never run from or deny what she has done, all anyone would ever have to do is Google her. Sure Kim got smashed on camera and got replaced by Reggie Bush in front of millions, but is that who we really see when we watch Kim on TV? Is that the person Kim Kardashian is?

Last night, E! aired the highly anticipated Kim Kardashian Wedding Special as the world watched the decadence, arguing, and stress of putting on a wedding fit for a queen. We saw Kim the concerned daughter by her mother’s side after surgery, the Kim crying in her stepdad’s arms dreaming of her birth father, the Kim who seemed to be the glue of a busy, dysfunctional average, American family.  To the chagrin of the trill OG’s, Kris Humphries made a hoe a housewife in front of the world, even sending her trinkets right before she walked down the aisle. It was as if Kim’s unable to keep a man-ness, FaceTime with Brandy’s brother, and general bimboism were relics of the past like VHS tapes and Walkmans.. maybe because they are.

Kudos to Kim. Feminists and womanists alike salivate at pointing out her shortcomings, but what about embracing a woman who clearly owns all her flaws, understands and works with them? Kim no longer actively sells sex, she sells perfume, diet pills, and party dresses. Kim alludes a certain type of grace, confidence, and focus despite her vulnerability and embarrassing porno past. What if women learned not to let go of their past? What if women stopped running away from their past? What if women learned what Kim Kardashian learned? Kim learned the long and hard way that who she is and what she did are two entire different things. Kim learned she isn’t what people said she is, she is who she puts her energy into being. Kim didn’t throw out the sour lemons of life, she made lemoncellos lemonade (Kim doesn’t drink). Kim is far from perfect. She seems to want to do everything on camera. Maybe reality TV for celebs is what Facebook or Twitter is for regular folks, hmmm… Of course Kim Kardashian is no Mother Teresa, but who is? #kanyeshrug

all in a day’s work…

I’ll Never Be Picture Perfect Beyonce….

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